Pot smokers- How do you let someone know that they're a prude without being rude?

I am currently living with my boyfriend and his brother and niece. I smoke like a broke stove and I can afford to, but his niece can't. Sometimes my boyfriend's other brother will come by the house and I'll drop dub five and he'll drop dub five and we let the session begin.



His niece lives here and she's welcome to join SOMETIMES, but now she's starting to kind of impose and just jump into the rotation uninvited, and she's always broke. I'm 25, she's 31 and I never felt like I had to teach someone proper etiquette when it comes to this, but most people know that weed costs, and that it's rude to just assume you can smoke up someone's sh!t without an invite and more importantly without money.



She never drops anything and she'll ask questions like ';Who's got the swisher?'; and call me on my cell saying things like ';Please, please, please, let me know if you guys get some weed today, I wanna smoke. Never has any money though. My boyfriend (her uncle) has been trying to tell her, but she just doesn't seem to get it. What would you say and how would you say it, so she gets the point, but wont be offended at the same time? She is a nice girl. Thanks to all who respond?



-Knowledge26



She only started smoking when I started coming around, but it's not my responsibility to support her habit and mine. She cooks, cleans and she's a really sweet girl, who has accepted me like family, and I love her but. Herb is pricey these days and t's gotten to the point wherePot smokers- How do you let someone know that they're a prude without being rude?
I had no idea there were concerns about ';etiquette'; relative to spot smoking. That's what I love about Y!A: I learn new things everyday!



I am eager to hear of other matters concerning the ';etiquette'; of crystal meth, heroin, crack and assorted hallucinogens. What about good, old fashioned booze? Any special ';etiquette'; concerns there? Can anyone advise?Pot smokers- How do you let someone know that they're a prude without being rude?
Just let her know how you feel. Tell her that she needs to start putting in money if she wants to smoke and if she can't then she cant smoke your weed. Let her know that you can afford to support your habit but not hers to.
First of all, you never have to be rude. Your thinking is justified so you should be confident in addressing this issue directly with the niece. If your boyfriend has addressed the issue and she doesn't seem to get it, I'll bet she really does get it. She's probably taking it with a grain of salt because it's not an issue with you (the other person providing smoke) or so she thinks. You can't assume everyone knows the cost of weed (just because you know) especially if they rarely have any. Either directly address this with the niece, without rudeness, or tell her if she wants to smoke, she needs to contribute. If she has a problem with it, then consider the situation and what options that are available to you.



Is your boyfriend worth the expense of providing smoke to his niece?



Can your boyfriend come to your place instead (without her)?



What will you do if, after talking to her, she still mooches?



Is your boyfriend willing to chip in on her behalf?



These are the questions you should ask yourself before approaching her. It's not your responsibility to teach etiquette and why would you subject yourself to this negativity? It bothers you enough to come here so you can either come to terms with it or get a new boyfriend if this is what comes with it. If he isn't helping resolve the problem, maybe you should move on. You already stated she's a nice girl so it doesn't sound like you dislike her and THAT is why you should be o.k. with talking to her. If she gets uptight, simply cut her off completely. This may cause some friction between her and your boyfriend which may cause some friction for you.



This can be a touchy subject but unless you know this woman well enough, you need to be prepared for any outcome. So, you can let things be and come to terms with the situation or talk the the niece and let the chips fall where they may.
Please, herb is cheap as f*ck and so are you. This woman cleans and cooks for you and you can't let her hit the bowl? If it really bothers you that much, you are someone few people probably want to smoke with. Why don't you try bartering with her, ask her to cook up or bring some munchies. You gotta remember man, if someone doesn't smoke that often or hasn't been smoking long they may not understand your ';etiquette'; rules.
You must not be rude . Just tell her the truth .