All they do is work and clean or worry over work or worry over getting the house clean.
They work at LEAST 8 hours a day ( My mom is a Chemist and my dad just became CEO of some new company {he is employeee #1} nad befor was a Senior Director BioChemist
But they go to work and work really hard most of the time my mom doesn't even take her lunch break. and when she gets home she insists that the house isn't clean enough and begins cleaning it.
My dad works really hard and when he gets home he giving off this streesed out vib and first thing he does when he walks in the door is point out what me and my sister havn't done around the house.
and Example of this is:
Ine day I got home after school i clean the entire house! I do all the dishes, I wipe down the counters, I vactume the carpet, I clean the bathrooms, I clean my room and my sisters room, I pick up EVERYTHING around the house, i mowed the lawn, weeded the garden, cleaned out the litter box, walked the Dog, cleaned my parents room (!!), I vacumed and scrubbed the pool and Did all the laundry!
and first thing he says to me when he walks in the door is
'; Sam you need to sweep the floors'; and continues to walk on sets down his stuff and turns of the football game,
And that is his route he comes in letcures us on what we havn't done, get his dinner ( sometimes makes dinner) and then sits down on the couch and turns on the TV and eats his dinner ( And he does NOT clean up the Cooking mess so by the time my mom comes in what was once clean is back to a disaster zone) and when he isn't watching the TV or doing work he is up messing with his boat.
And mom does nothing but clean and work and seems depressed or stressed or over worked
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Also My mom was astraight A student and my Dad a was A and B+ student all through high school and therefore a C is equivelent to a F in my house. So i try to get good grades to make them proud. But when ever my report card gets here it normally looks like this:
Math: B
History: A
Science: B
English: A
Dance/ PE : A ( 96%)
Cermic/ Drawing class: A+ ( 106%)
and all they can say is ';Why didn't you get an A in Math and Science';
And on the Weekends all they do is Chores, House remodeling, and the never ending TO DO list. they also drop us off at our riding lesson on Sunday from 9:30 to 11:30 and most of the time don't even stay and when they do stay they say ';good job but i don't see much improvement';.( I've gone from not being able to canter to jumping 5 jump course at the canter and 2.5 ft verticals and cross rails!)
Its like why do i bother to Try! Nothing ever seems to be good enough. I wish they would say to the Hell with it all and go do something fun they WANT TO DO not something they Should Do.
UGG. I've try talking to them about it and all they say is i need to help around the house more and maybe then we can do something ';Fun';. thier relationship seems to be going fine it not like the have fights or anything. Its just they never seem happy or like they are having fun.
I like I've never heard my mom really laugh lik hear a small chuckle but out of the 16 years I've lived don't think i heard my mom laugh. =(
So what can i do?
What do i do? How can i just get them to have fun?
* Sigh* I just about ready to give up. Cause I can't think of anything to do to help and nothing ever seems to be good enough.
Parents never seem to be Happy.....?
So you are the live-in maid?
First of all, get a handle on your own life... you can do chores while being active in school clubs and extracurricular activities or even getting a job after school. What you need to do is quit trying to be a walking-talking Roomba.
Get a big calendar and put your schedule on each day... this club on Friday afternoons then mopping the floor when you get home. This activity on Tuesday afternoon and then clean the bathrooms when you get home. The dog and cat will have to be serviced no matter what. When the pipe up to complain, you point to the calendar. This way you are eliminating any nit-picking after the fact.
Learn to be content with yourself. You will probably never make your parents happy... it isn't possible. About all you can do is try to keep your relationship with them relatively free of static. Don't tie up your own self-esteem in a quest for their approval... it won't work.Parents never seem to be Happy.....?
well they are probably thinking about a divorce cause they are bored! but they stay together because you and your sis...just remember is not your fault (nor your sister's)
ask them separetly if they are happy
found some time for each of them and do something fun (if they think football is fun then sit next to him and watch it)
not easy but good luck
Sounds to me like your are a great daughter. Your parents should be very proud of you. You want them to have fun and I agree with you they need some fun in their lives along with some relaxation. A cruise would be nice for them.
Go to a travel agency and get some information on different cruises. When you have your parents together show them the information about the different cruises. Tell them that you want them to go some where and have some fun. Tell them they work to hard and deserve a vacation. And that you thought a cruise would be fun as well as relaxing.
That's about all you can do. You can't make them go any where just suggest that they go.
Do you have family close by that can convince them they need to have some fun in their life?
Blessings and Good luck with your parents!
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