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DID YOU KNOW?
Peel a banana from the bottom and you won't have to
pick the little 'stringy things' off of it. That's how the primates do it.
Take your bananas apart when you get home from the store.
If you leave them connected at the stem, they ripen faster.
Store your opened chunks of cheese in aluminum foil.
It will stay fresh much longer and not mold!
Peppers with 3 bumps on the bottom are sweeter and better for eating.
Peppers with 4 bumps on the bottom are firmer and better for cooking.
Add a teaspoon of water when frying ground beef.
It will help pull the grease away from the meat while cooking.
To really make scrambled eggs or omelets rich add a couple of
spoonfuls of sour cream, cream cheese, or heavy cream in and then beat them up.
For a cool brownie treat, make brownies as directed. Melt Andes mints
in double broiler and pour over warm brownies. Let set for a wonderful minty frosting.
Add garlic immediately to a recipe if you want a light taste
of garlic and at the end of the recipe if your want a stronger taste of garlic.
Leftover snickers bars from Halloween make a delicious dessert. Simply
chop them up with the food chopper. Peel, core and slice a few apples. Place them
in a baking dish and sprinkle the chopped candy bars over the apples. Bake at 350
for 15 minutes!!! Serve alone or with vanilla ice cream. Yummm!
Reheat Pizza
Heat up leftover pizza in a nonstick skillet on top of the stove, set heat to med-low
and heat till warm. This keeps the crust crispy. No soggy micro pizza. I saw this on
the cooking channel and it really works.
Easy Deviled Eggs
Put cooked egg yolks in a zip lock bag. Seal, mash till they are all broken up. Add remainder of ingredients, reseal, keep mashing it up mixing thoroughly, cut the tip of the baggy, squeeze mixture into egg. Just throw bag away when done easy clean up.
Expanding Frosting
When you buy a container of cake frosting from the store, whip it with your mixer
for a few minutes. You can double it in size. You get to frost more cake/cupcakes
with the same amount. You also eat less sugar and calories per serving.
Reheating refrigerated bread
To warm biscuits, pancakes, or muffins that were refrigerated, place them in
a microwave with a cup of water. The increased moisture will keep the food
moist and help it reheat faster.
Newspaper weeds away
Start putting in your plants, work the nutrients in your soil. Wet newspapers,
put layers around the plants overlapping as you go cover with mulch and for-
get about weeds. Weeds will get through some gardening plastic they will not
get through wet newspapers.
Broken Glass
Use a wet cotton ball or Q-tip to pick up the small shards of glass you can't see easily.
No More Mosquitoes
Place a dryer sheet in your pocket.
It will keep the mosquitoes away.
Squirrel Away!
To keep squirrels from eating your plants, sprinkle your plants with cayenne pepper.
The cayenne pepper doesn't hurt the plant and the squirrels won't come near it.
Flexible vacuum
To get something out of a heat register or under the fridge add an empty paper towel
roll or empty gift wrap roll to your vacuum. It can be bent or flattened to get in nar-
row openings.
Reducing Static Cling
Pin a small safety pin to the seam of your slip and you will not have a clingy skirt
or dress. Same thing works with slacks that cling when wearing panty hose.
Place pin in seam of slacks and ... ta da! ... static is gone.
Measuring Cups
Before you pour sticky substances into a measuring cup, fill with hot water.
Dump out the hot water, but don't dry cup. Next, add your ingredient, such
as peanut butter, and watch how easily it comes right out.
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Foggy Windshield?
Hate foggy windshields? Buy a chalkboard eraser and keep it in the glove box of
your car . When the window s fog, rub with the eraser! Works better than a cloth!
Reopening envelope
If you seal an envelope and then realize you forgot to include something inside,
just place your sealed envelope in the freezer for an hour or two. Viola! It unseals
easily.
Conditioner
Use your hair conditioner to shave your legs. It's cheaper than shaving cream and
leaves your legs really smooth. It's also a great way to use up the conditioner you
bought but didn't like when you tried it in your hair.
Goodbye Fruit Flies
To get rid of pesky fruit flies, take a small glass, fill it 1/2' with Apple Cider Vinegar
and 2 drops of dish washing liquid; mix well. You will find those flies drawn to the
cup and gone forever!
Get Rid of Ants
Put small piles of cornmeal where you see ants They eat it, take it 'home,' can't
digest it so it kills them. It may take a week or so, especially if it rains, but it works
and you don't have the worry about pets or small children being harmed!
INFO ABOUT CLOTHES DRYERS
The heating unit went out on my dryer! The gentleman that fixeAwesome ';household hints'; i found...?
Awesome! THanks for sharing. I'm going to rmember the one about separating the bananas and the Snickers/apple treat. Yummo!
Citrus fruits ( lemon, line,oranges ) that feel a little more thin skinned are juicier.
The ones with thick skin are less juicy.
You can nuke a lemon for 10 seconds to make it give more juice. Somehow the heat makes the juices flow and you will get more juice from it.Awesome ';household hints'; i found...?
Cool tips, but who has leftover snickers after Halloween? Not me!
Great tips--thanks!!! One I learned from my grandmother that owned a store--onions that are flatter in shape are sweeter.
Great tips..Thanks.=)
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Friday, November 12, 2010
Should I read this letter at my grandmothers funeral?
My great Grandmother has 173+ grandchildren and great grandchildren
shoud i read this at her funeral?
Grandma,
A baby cradled in your arms...
Teaching me your gentle charms.
Growing up with you by my side...
Learning from you never to lie.
To understand and not judge too...
Love and kindness I also learned from you.
Through the years you watched me grow...
Teaching me everything I'd need to know.
Listening to every word I've said...
And every word I've wrote you've read.
You've been there for me to the end...
Until the day for you, God did send.
Now you watch me from up above...
Shining down on me your heavenly love.
I will miss you with all my heart...
Thank you for being there from the start.
All the things you used to do
cooking dinner on sunday
making homemade stew
sitting for hours
telling us tales
of how poor jonah
was swallowed by the whale
working in your garden
pulling all the weeds
wiping sweat from your brow
and gently planting seeds
you are a special grandma
one that we adore
you taught us right from wrong
and so very much more
grandma i remember
when you would sing a song
you would encourage
us all to sing along
and you would sit and rock
and read the bible
while we would play
i can still see it
as you held it in your hands
well worn from all your reading
and learning of gods plans
grandma i remember
dont worry about me
you taught us all so well
years ago upon your knee.
Thank you for the gift of love,
now you're sharing it up above.
You had many things to say.
All in a caring way.
You always saw good in everyone,
No matter what they've done.
You were always the one we could all lean on.
Even though it must have felt like a ton.
You were always the strength of the family.
Now we must let you rest calmly.
As we say goodbye,
as tears roll down our eyes.
I know your place in heaven has a good view.
Because you're telling God,
I need to keep an eye on a few.
I know you will always be in our hearts and mind.
So Grandma,
I must go, but I'll never forget you're one of a kindShould I read this letter at my grandmothers funeral?
That's a very sweet poem. You should definitely read it. 173 great/grandchidren is a lot! wow! Your great grandma must've had her hands full!Should I read this letter at my grandmothers funeral?
its really good, I suggest having it printed out for everyone to get a copy of, when you go up to read it, it may be difficult for you to get through the whole thing.
That is an extremely beautiful poem and it will bring tears to almost everyones eyes i can guarantee. May she rest in peace,
and I send my regards
x
100 % yes.
I sang ';Amazing Grace'; at my grandfathers funeral, and it gave me some closure.
yes you should, it might be hard not to tear up but thats a wonderful poem and i'm sure your Grandma would love to hear it. ?
You should ! Its a lovely poem !
That is a lovely poem! You really should. I nearly cried! lol
that was a really nice poem...you should read it.
=]
If you wrote this then you most definitely should (Well you should anyway it's beautiful). It's extremely meaningful and it sounds as though your Grandma was too. This will be perfect for a lovely sending off and I'm sure she will be smiling down on you from heaven to have such a wonderful Grandchild!
I hope that the funeral, goes as well as any funeral can go, but a nice calm blessing toward her departure!
xx
that was very lovely written you shouldbe proud to read that, but sometimes its hard you might have a back up to help you.it took all thre of us girls to read the poem i wrote for my dad. god will be with you. let me know how you did
shoud i read this at her funeral?
Grandma,
A baby cradled in your arms...
Teaching me your gentle charms.
Growing up with you by my side...
Learning from you never to lie.
To understand and not judge too...
Love and kindness I also learned from you.
Through the years you watched me grow...
Teaching me everything I'd need to know.
Listening to every word I've said...
And every word I've wrote you've read.
You've been there for me to the end...
Until the day for you, God did send.
Now you watch me from up above...
Shining down on me your heavenly love.
I will miss you with all my heart...
Thank you for being there from the start.
All the things you used to do
cooking dinner on sunday
making homemade stew
sitting for hours
telling us tales
of how poor jonah
was swallowed by the whale
working in your garden
pulling all the weeds
wiping sweat from your brow
and gently planting seeds
you are a special grandma
one that we adore
you taught us right from wrong
and so very much more
grandma i remember
when you would sing a song
you would encourage
us all to sing along
and you would sit and rock
and read the bible
while we would play
i can still see it
as you held it in your hands
well worn from all your reading
and learning of gods plans
grandma i remember
dont worry about me
you taught us all so well
years ago upon your knee.
Thank you for the gift of love,
now you're sharing it up above.
You had many things to say.
All in a caring way.
You always saw good in everyone,
No matter what they've done.
You were always the one we could all lean on.
Even though it must have felt like a ton.
You were always the strength of the family.
Now we must let you rest calmly.
As we say goodbye,
as tears roll down our eyes.
I know your place in heaven has a good view.
Because you're telling God,
I need to keep an eye on a few.
I know you will always be in our hearts and mind.
So Grandma,
I must go, but I'll never forget you're one of a kindShould I read this letter at my grandmothers funeral?
That's a very sweet poem. You should definitely read it. 173 great/grandchidren is a lot! wow! Your great grandma must've had her hands full!Should I read this letter at my grandmothers funeral?
its really good, I suggest having it printed out for everyone to get a copy of, when you go up to read it, it may be difficult for you to get through the whole thing.
That is an extremely beautiful poem and it will bring tears to almost everyones eyes i can guarantee. May she rest in peace,
and I send my regards
x
100 % yes.
I sang ';Amazing Grace'; at my grandfathers funeral, and it gave me some closure.
yes you should, it might be hard not to tear up but thats a wonderful poem and i'm sure your Grandma would love to hear it. ?
You should ! Its a lovely poem !
That is a lovely poem! You really should. I nearly cried! lol
that was a really nice poem...you should read it.
=]
If you wrote this then you most definitely should (Well you should anyway it's beautiful). It's extremely meaningful and it sounds as though your Grandma was too. This will be perfect for a lovely sending off and I'm sure she will be smiling down on you from heaven to have such a wonderful Grandchild!
I hope that the funeral, goes as well as any funeral can go, but a nice calm blessing toward her departure!
xx
that was very lovely written you shouldbe proud to read that, but sometimes its hard you might have a back up to help you.it took all thre of us girls to read the poem i wrote for my dad. god will be with you. let me know how you did
My Mom doesnt clean the house and it drive me mad?
Ok, so i know it sounds a little wierd but just hear me out.
My house is disgusting, and it DRIVES ME MAD
im a clean freak, and i cant LIVE IN IT. my room is clean, and im always clean, im a clean cut kindof girl, who has very rich, nice taste. but my family on the other hand.... ARE NOT!
my kitchen is so gross, there will be food stains and food on the counters for longer then a week, and food crumbs, chunks, stains on the tile, and food left out. and the stove is filled with leftover food from cooking, and the kitchen has split food, stains in it, etc. etc. i HAVE cleaned the kitchen i dont know how many times.. but i just cant do it by myself. The frontroom has carpet stains because they dont clean up when they spill drinks and stuff, and its very very very CLUTTERED!!!!!
this is so gross... i was cleaning the frontroom once and (my grandparents live with us- the frontroom is basically where they are always) and i was picking up magazenes from by my grandpas chair, and under them were.... GRUBS! FREAKIN GRUBS!!! with food grumbs and nasty sticky stuff all over. so i vaccumed it up, gaging while doing it but yeah.
the front porch is nasty because my brother has his friends over ALL THE TIME (he is 16) and they smoke and have food and pop cans out on the porch and they just leave it there! and also, our dryer has this thing where lint stuff comes out the side of the house? idk its wierd, bu its all over the porch because my mom doesnt clean it up! I DO.
and outside, the lawn is always cut yes. but... ugh... since we dont use the garage, weeds and **** gros in front of it through the cement, and they are taller them=n me! IM 5'5!!!!!
the toilet is neevr cleaned, the shower is never cleaned, and its just horrible. when ever i have people over, they say OMG how do u live here? or like omg my mom would see this and freak out, and etc. (they are close- so they arnt saying it in an offending way)
i seriously CRY.
its very stressful to have such a messy house.
i want to be able to sit at my kitchen table and eat, but i cant. theres **** ALL OVER IT. i want to be able to watch tv in the frontroom, BUT I CANT EVEN STAND IN THERE FOR 5 MINS.
i want to be able to have people over and not just have them in my room BUT I CANT!!! i want to able to come home from school, and go sit in the kitchen or somewhre besides my room, and have a snack or do my homework, BUT.. I CANT!:( im always in my room because i cant stand this hell hold. theres 7 of us. (mom dad 16 year old brother, 18 yr old with special needs, me, nana, papa) oh and my cat.) and dont say oh she cant do everything, u have ti do some stuff...i do, its just i dont understand why my mom doesnt clean anymore! out house used to be nice and clean. now its ******* ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i have asked my mom why doesnt she clean and she gets all defensive and says IVE GIVEN UP and STOP TELLING ME WHAT TO DO. ive even said mom ill help you do this, lets do it when we get home and she says NO. and stop telling me what to do!!!!
i hate it! i hate being at home because im so unchompratable here, and its very stressful. i will just cry for no reason. ive told my mom also several times to make us a chore list so the house can be clean. and she just says shell do it but never does. out house is pretty big. it has... (split level) upstairs: frontroom, kitchen, 3 bed rooms, a bathroom and a bathroom in my gmas room, sunroom, and a big porch, downstairs: open room, 2 bed rooms laundry and bathroom. ALL UNFINISHED DOWNSTAIRS. and my brothers LIVE DOWN THERE! the bathroom... ugh (downstairs) has holes in the wall, has stains on the wall from when the plumbing broke (gag) bugs flying all over, and its nasty. i dont want to describe anymore of my house. its horrific!!!
please.. how can i get my mom to help me clean, and how ca i get this house clean!!!
this is making me seriously depressed and moody. i need clean.
it makes me happy, i have suggested a house keeper to my gma (shes pretty wealthy) but she always just says no im not wasting my money... how much are they, speaking of?
in 2 days im going away for a week with a friend on vacation THANK GOD! but i dont want to come home to this shitty place...
PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I JUMP OFF A CLIFF?My Mom doesnt clean the house and it drive me mad?
You are a minor and you cant do it all, you have a brother who is disabled, and if the house is as bad as you say then their is no way you or your brother are being taken care of properly and needs meant especially for your brother who can't do a lot for himself. If I were you I would tell your mom that if it isn't cleaned up that social serves could end up getting called. I know you love her but something has bot be done nobody should be living like that, it's unhealthy and un safe.My Mom doesnt clean the house and it drive me mad?
There might be some emotinal mental prob with your fam. Find a way to get them help asap. Or you can contact this TV show %26amp; have a chance at getting their help :
http://www.mystyle.com/mystyle/shows/messiesthome/hotmess/index.jsp
I guess you just have to live with it or do it yourself until you are old enough to move out. And don't have people over. If your parents ask why tell them the home is embarrassing. And once you move out, just don't go back over there.
Let's see, God gave you two arms, two legs and a brain right? So be thoughtful and considerate and clean the house yourself.
Can you move in with your friend? Tell your mother she is causing you to go mental, with the filth in the house, and you can't live like this, and you can't do all the cleaning yourself.Ask her to hire someone to clean it up if she doesn't want to, but you can't live like this.
Sounds like my mother. When I was a teenager, I was the one who used to the clean the house. She was one of the most laziest people I've ever met. She also never would invite anyone over her house, including me, her daughter, or her own parents when I didn't live with her. This is when I was living at my grandparents house when I was a child. I could imgaine what the place looked like. I actually had to go over and clean her entire apartment a few weeks ago. It took me 2 days to do. It was disgusting, I had to paint the cabinets bc they were filthy and I asked her how she could live like that. I lived there too a few years back. Of course when I did the house looked nice. My apartment is clean, but looks lived in. I don't mind papers laying around or a hair or two on the floor. I'm not a total clean freak, plus I work full time but still my house is clean. I finally got to invite my fiancee over since he's been to her house like 2x. The first time she invited us over the house, it was such a mess and I was totally embarrassed. She is very thrifty and not into decorating, as I am either. My mom thinks it's kind of funny when I get on her about cleaning bc to her it's not a big deal and she also doesn't see a problem with not having anyone in her house. She could be living in a cardboard box and be happy. I, like you, like then nicer things in life. You can explain how you feel to your mom but don't expect a change.
Well, how about getting your *** up and cleaning the house on your own? Just because you are a teenager doesn't mean you don't know how to clean. Your mom probably has her hands full and doesn't need to be bitched at by a teenager, clean up a bit around the house. Once things are a bit tidier, it is easy to keep it up.
My house is disgusting, and it DRIVES ME MAD
im a clean freak, and i cant LIVE IN IT. my room is clean, and im always clean, im a clean cut kindof girl, who has very rich, nice taste. but my family on the other hand.... ARE NOT!
my kitchen is so gross, there will be food stains and food on the counters for longer then a week, and food crumbs, chunks, stains on the tile, and food left out. and the stove is filled with leftover food from cooking, and the kitchen has split food, stains in it, etc. etc. i HAVE cleaned the kitchen i dont know how many times.. but i just cant do it by myself. The frontroom has carpet stains because they dont clean up when they spill drinks and stuff, and its very very very CLUTTERED!!!!!
this is so gross... i was cleaning the frontroom once and (my grandparents live with us- the frontroom is basically where they are always) and i was picking up magazenes from by my grandpas chair, and under them were.... GRUBS! FREAKIN GRUBS!!! with food grumbs and nasty sticky stuff all over. so i vaccumed it up, gaging while doing it but yeah.
the front porch is nasty because my brother has his friends over ALL THE TIME (he is 16) and they smoke and have food and pop cans out on the porch and they just leave it there! and also, our dryer has this thing where lint stuff comes out the side of the house? idk its wierd, bu its all over the porch because my mom doesnt clean it up! I DO.
and outside, the lawn is always cut yes. but... ugh... since we dont use the garage, weeds and **** gros in front of it through the cement, and they are taller them=n me! IM 5'5!!!!!
the toilet is neevr cleaned, the shower is never cleaned, and its just horrible. when ever i have people over, they say OMG how do u live here? or like omg my mom would see this and freak out, and etc. (they are close- so they arnt saying it in an offending way)
i seriously CRY.
its very stressful to have such a messy house.
i want to be able to sit at my kitchen table and eat, but i cant. theres **** ALL OVER IT. i want to be able to watch tv in the frontroom, BUT I CANT EVEN STAND IN THERE FOR 5 MINS.
i want to be able to have people over and not just have them in my room BUT I CANT!!! i want to able to come home from school, and go sit in the kitchen or somewhre besides my room, and have a snack or do my homework, BUT.. I CANT!:( im always in my room because i cant stand this hell hold. theres 7 of us. (mom dad 16 year old brother, 18 yr old with special needs, me, nana, papa) oh and my cat.) and dont say oh she cant do everything, u have ti do some stuff...i do, its just i dont understand why my mom doesnt clean anymore! out house used to be nice and clean. now its ******* ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i have asked my mom why doesnt she clean and she gets all defensive and says IVE GIVEN UP and STOP TELLING ME WHAT TO DO. ive even said mom ill help you do this, lets do it when we get home and she says NO. and stop telling me what to do!!!!
i hate it! i hate being at home because im so unchompratable here, and its very stressful. i will just cry for no reason. ive told my mom also several times to make us a chore list so the house can be clean. and she just says shell do it but never does. out house is pretty big. it has... (split level) upstairs: frontroom, kitchen, 3 bed rooms, a bathroom and a bathroom in my gmas room, sunroom, and a big porch, downstairs: open room, 2 bed rooms laundry and bathroom. ALL UNFINISHED DOWNSTAIRS. and my brothers LIVE DOWN THERE! the bathroom... ugh (downstairs) has holes in the wall, has stains on the wall from when the plumbing broke (gag) bugs flying all over, and its nasty. i dont want to describe anymore of my house. its horrific!!!
please.. how can i get my mom to help me clean, and how ca i get this house clean!!!
this is making me seriously depressed and moody. i need clean.
it makes me happy, i have suggested a house keeper to my gma (shes pretty wealthy) but she always just says no im not wasting my money... how much are they, speaking of?
in 2 days im going away for a week with a friend on vacation THANK GOD! but i dont want to come home to this shitty place...
PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I JUMP OFF A CLIFF?My Mom doesnt clean the house and it drive me mad?
You are a minor and you cant do it all, you have a brother who is disabled, and if the house is as bad as you say then their is no way you or your brother are being taken care of properly and needs meant especially for your brother who can't do a lot for himself. If I were you I would tell your mom that if it isn't cleaned up that social serves could end up getting called. I know you love her but something has bot be done nobody should be living like that, it's unhealthy and un safe.My Mom doesnt clean the house and it drive me mad?
There might be some emotinal mental prob with your fam. Find a way to get them help asap. Or you can contact this TV show %26amp; have a chance at getting their help :
http://www.mystyle.com/mystyle/shows/messiesthome/hotmess/index.jsp
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I guess you just have to live with it or do it yourself until you are old enough to move out. And don't have people over. If your parents ask why tell them the home is embarrassing. And once you move out, just don't go back over there.
Let's see, God gave you two arms, two legs and a brain right? So be thoughtful and considerate and clean the house yourself.
Can you move in with your friend? Tell your mother she is causing you to go mental, with the filth in the house, and you can't live like this, and you can't do all the cleaning yourself.Ask her to hire someone to clean it up if she doesn't want to, but you can't live like this.
Sounds like my mother. When I was a teenager, I was the one who used to the clean the house. She was one of the most laziest people I've ever met. She also never would invite anyone over her house, including me, her daughter, or her own parents when I didn't live with her. This is when I was living at my grandparents house when I was a child. I could imgaine what the place looked like. I actually had to go over and clean her entire apartment a few weeks ago. It took me 2 days to do. It was disgusting, I had to paint the cabinets bc they were filthy and I asked her how she could live like that. I lived there too a few years back. Of course when I did the house looked nice. My apartment is clean, but looks lived in. I don't mind papers laying around or a hair or two on the floor. I'm not a total clean freak, plus I work full time but still my house is clean. I finally got to invite my fiancee over since he's been to her house like 2x. The first time she invited us over the house, it was such a mess and I was totally embarrassed. She is very thrifty and not into decorating, as I am either. My mom thinks it's kind of funny when I get on her about cleaning bc to her it's not a big deal and she also doesn't see a problem with not having anyone in her house. She could be living in a cardboard box and be happy. I, like you, like then nicer things in life. You can explain how you feel to your mom but don't expect a change.
Well, how about getting your *** up and cleaning the house on your own? Just because you are a teenager doesn't mean you don't know how to clean. Your mom probably has her hands full and doesn't need to be bitched at by a teenager, clean up a bit around the house. Once things are a bit tidier, it is easy to keep it up.
How do get him to see that 'his way' isn't the 'right way'?
so I am expected to do it ALL....
my hubby doesn't think thaking care of my son properly is a full time job. He thinks that ontop of doing 99% of the child care and ALL of the cooking and shoping I should do ALL of the house work, and take care of the HUGE garden. weather its all done or not he says I sit at home on my butt all day!!! My son is one of the most happy babies ever and I dedicate 100% of my time to him when he is awake, I don't care what I have to do I want him to be as happy as possible. I'm not going to ignore him to get stuff done! I also prepare all of our food (babies included) from scratch, I buy loafs of bread and some cereal and milk but eveything else is made by me, snacks, juice, breads (to go with supper) everything. I get $hit on for wanting him to watch HIS son while I pull weeds or go to do the shopping, I don't get appreciated for what I do I am so frusterated! have any of you delt with this before?How do get him to see that 'his way' isn't the 'right way'?
Wow, I am so sorry for you. You need to sit down and talk with your husband...or have him take over for a week to see if he could handle such a load...
I don't remotely have your problem. My husband is the most giving, compassionate man on earth. His and my priority is our child. I could literally sit around playing with our child all day long, and my husband could care less....he can do his onw laundry, food, and housework. I didn't quit my job to become a maid, I quit to become a mommy....you need to remind your husband of that.How do get him to see that 'his way' isn't the 'right way'?
Sounds like an overbearing man!! Some might say this is mental abuse.
yeah, why dont you go out for a whole day- make up some huge reason. my fiance has to watch my son every once in a while about 8 hours a day on the weekend and he sue to say this until he stopped getting help with it, then he started saying thank you to me and calling me super mom lol
When he gets home from work, just leave. Don't say a word, just physically hand off the baby and go. Stay gone for at least 4 hours, if not longer, and let him SEE what it's like to sit on your butt with an infant around.
After that, you need to have a long discussion and TELL, not ask, him that he is going to start helping you. If that doesn't work, just start doing enough around the house for the baby. Keep the baby's space clean, make baby food and do the baby's laundry. Do nothing for your husband until he realizes that you are his wife, not his mommy.
I think alot of guys are like this I know my husband is. Sometimes I will be doing something and the baby starts acting up or needs changing or fed and Im like can you get that and he will say please no I just got off work or something like that it makes me so mad. I would like him to stay at home with her all day but then I probley wouldnt ever get anymore kids LOL.
Well, was he like this before the baby came? Does he think women and men have specific roles? Or is it only because you don't have a job outside the house.
I would suggest seeing a marriage counselor. Obviously, talking to him isn't going to help and your anger and frustration is only going to build. Counseling could really help him see all you have to do and what is going on in his head. He probably feels that he works all day and deserves a break. I know you do too, I'm just saying, that is how he probably sees it.
My husband and I have always split chores/household duties. Therefore, when the baby comes, it will stay the same. I have a feeling you did everything before the baby came and now with the added stress of a child, you are realizing you can't do it all on your own.
good luck!
If you're asking what I would do...I would leave. Tell him can find out what its like when you have joint custody and he has to take care of his baby alone every other weekend. Honestly guys like this need to be jerked back to reality and it may take a little threatening to do it. He probably treats you that way b/c he thinks he can and that you will take it. So show him that you won't.
Just STOP doing anything around the house, don't have his meals prepared, don't wash his clothes ... take care of the baby and that's it!! Then see if he thinks you sit on your a** all day!!
Realistically, if you try to talk to him and nothing works..are you close with his mom?? Sometimes mother-in-laws can work magic w/ their sons..sometimes they can't..just depends on the mother-in-law you have!!
That is the life of a stay at home mom. I take care of baby, cleaning, meals, Emma's babyfood is also homemade, and I hoe out, pick, and put up the garden food. Hubby will help if he has time after getting home (we are building our house so he is usually doing that in the evening). He tills the garden and helped plant it, but thats about it. I am also pregnant. I just consider it my job, but I probably have a better attitude about because if I asked for his help he would give it to me.
my hubby doesn't think thaking care of my son properly is a full time job. He thinks that ontop of doing 99% of the child care and ALL of the cooking and shoping I should do ALL of the house work, and take care of the HUGE garden. weather its all done or not he says I sit at home on my butt all day!!! My son is one of the most happy babies ever and I dedicate 100% of my time to him when he is awake, I don't care what I have to do I want him to be as happy as possible. I'm not going to ignore him to get stuff done! I also prepare all of our food (babies included) from scratch, I buy loafs of bread and some cereal and milk but eveything else is made by me, snacks, juice, breads (to go with supper) everything. I get $hit on for wanting him to watch HIS son while I pull weeds or go to do the shopping, I don't get appreciated for what I do I am so frusterated! have any of you delt with this before?How do get him to see that 'his way' isn't the 'right way'?
Wow, I am so sorry for you. You need to sit down and talk with your husband...or have him take over for a week to see if he could handle such a load...
I don't remotely have your problem. My husband is the most giving, compassionate man on earth. His and my priority is our child. I could literally sit around playing with our child all day long, and my husband could care less....he can do his onw laundry, food, and housework. I didn't quit my job to become a maid, I quit to become a mommy....you need to remind your husband of that.How do get him to see that 'his way' isn't the 'right way'?
Sounds like an overbearing man!! Some might say this is mental abuse.
yeah, why dont you go out for a whole day- make up some huge reason. my fiance has to watch my son every once in a while about 8 hours a day on the weekend and he sue to say this until he stopped getting help with it, then he started saying thank you to me and calling me super mom lol
When he gets home from work, just leave. Don't say a word, just physically hand off the baby and go. Stay gone for at least 4 hours, if not longer, and let him SEE what it's like to sit on your butt with an infant around.
After that, you need to have a long discussion and TELL, not ask, him that he is going to start helping you. If that doesn't work, just start doing enough around the house for the baby. Keep the baby's space clean, make baby food and do the baby's laundry. Do nothing for your husband until he realizes that you are his wife, not his mommy.
I think alot of guys are like this I know my husband is. Sometimes I will be doing something and the baby starts acting up or needs changing or fed and Im like can you get that and he will say please no I just got off work or something like that it makes me so mad. I would like him to stay at home with her all day but then I probley wouldnt ever get anymore kids LOL.
Well, was he like this before the baby came? Does he think women and men have specific roles? Or is it only because you don't have a job outside the house.
I would suggest seeing a marriage counselor. Obviously, talking to him isn't going to help and your anger and frustration is only going to build. Counseling could really help him see all you have to do and what is going on in his head. He probably feels that he works all day and deserves a break. I know you do too, I'm just saying, that is how he probably sees it.
My husband and I have always split chores/household duties. Therefore, when the baby comes, it will stay the same. I have a feeling you did everything before the baby came and now with the added stress of a child, you are realizing you can't do it all on your own.
good luck!
If you're asking what I would do...I would leave. Tell him can find out what its like when you have joint custody and he has to take care of his baby alone every other weekend. Honestly guys like this need to be jerked back to reality and it may take a little threatening to do it. He probably treats you that way b/c he thinks he can and that you will take it. So show him that you won't.
Just STOP doing anything around the house, don't have his meals prepared, don't wash his clothes ... take care of the baby and that's it!! Then see if he thinks you sit on your a** all day!!
Realistically, if you try to talk to him and nothing works..are you close with his mom?? Sometimes mother-in-laws can work magic w/ their sons..sometimes they can't..just depends on the mother-in-law you have!!
That is the life of a stay at home mom. I take care of baby, cleaning, meals, Emma's babyfood is also homemade, and I hoe out, pick, and put up the garden food. Hubby will help if he has time after getting home (we are building our house so he is usually doing that in the evening). He tills the garden and helped plant it, but thats about it. I am also pregnant. I just consider it my job, but I probably have a better attitude about because if I asked for his help he would give it to me.
Parents never seem to be Happy.....?
My parents never seem to be happy. like they smile here and there but they never really seem to be having good time.
All they do is work and clean or worry over work or worry over getting the house clean.
They work at LEAST 8 hours a day ( My mom is a Chemist and my dad just became CEO of some new company {he is employeee #1} nad befor was a Senior Director BioChemist
But they go to work and work really hard most of the time my mom doesn't even take her lunch break. and when she gets home she insists that the house isn't clean enough and begins cleaning it.
My dad works really hard and when he gets home he giving off this streesed out vib and first thing he does when he walks in the door is point out what me and my sister havn't done around the house.
and Example of this is:
Ine day I got home after school i clean the entire house! I do all the dishes, I wipe down the counters, I vactume the carpet, I clean the bathrooms, I clean my room and my sisters room, I pick up EVERYTHING around the house, i mowed the lawn, weeded the garden, cleaned out the litter box, walked the Dog, cleaned my parents room (!!), I vacumed and scrubbed the pool and Did all the laundry!
and first thing he says to me when he walks in the door is
'; Sam you need to sweep the floors'; and continues to walk on sets down his stuff and turns of the football game,
And that is his route he comes in letcures us on what we havn't done, get his dinner ( sometimes makes dinner) and then sits down on the couch and turns on the TV and eats his dinner ( And he does NOT clean up the Cooking mess so by the time my mom comes in what was once clean is back to a disaster zone) and when he isn't watching the TV or doing work he is up messing with his boat.
And mom does nothing but clean and work and seems depressed or stressed or over worked
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Also My mom was astraight A student and my Dad a was A and B+ student all through high school and therefore a C is equivelent to a F in my house. So i try to get good grades to make them proud. But when ever my report card gets here it normally looks like this:
Math: B
History: A
Science: B
English: A
Dance/ PE : A ( 96%)
Cermic/ Drawing class: A+ ( 106%)
and all they can say is ';Why didn't you get an A in Math and Science';
And on the Weekends all they do is Chores, House remodeling, and the never ending TO DO list. they also drop us off at our riding lesson on Sunday from 9:30 to 11:30 and most of the time don't even stay and when they do stay they say ';good job but i don't see much improvement';.( I've gone from not being able to canter to jumping 5 jump course at the canter and 2.5 ft verticals and cross rails!)
Its like why do i bother to Try! Nothing ever seems to be good enough. I wish they would say to the Hell with it all and go do something fun they WANT TO DO not something they Should Do.
UGG. I've try talking to them about it and all they say is i need to help around the house more and maybe then we can do something ';Fun';. thier relationship seems to be going fine it not like the have fights or anything. Its just they never seem happy or like they are having fun.
I like I've never heard my mom really laugh lik hear a small chuckle but out of the 16 years I've lived don't think i heard my mom laugh. =(
So what can i do?
What do i do? How can i just get them to have fun?
* Sigh* I just about ready to give up. Cause I can't think of anything to do to help and nothing ever seems to be good enough.
Parents never seem to be Happy.....?
So you are the live-in maid?
First of all, get a handle on your own life... you can do chores while being active in school clubs and extracurricular activities or even getting a job after school. What you need to do is quit trying to be a walking-talking Roomba.
Get a big calendar and put your schedule on each day... this club on Friday afternoons then mopping the floor when you get home. This activity on Tuesday afternoon and then clean the bathrooms when you get home. The dog and cat will have to be serviced no matter what. When the pipe up to complain, you point to the calendar. This way you are eliminating any nit-picking after the fact.
Learn to be content with yourself. You will probably never make your parents happy... it isn't possible. About all you can do is try to keep your relationship with them relatively free of static. Don't tie up your own self-esteem in a quest for their approval... it won't work.Parents never seem to be Happy.....?
well they are probably thinking about a divorce cause they are bored! but they stay together because you and your sis...just remember is not your fault (nor your sister's)
ask them separetly if they are happy
found some time for each of them and do something fun (if they think football is fun then sit next to him and watch it)
not easy but good luck
Sounds to me like your are a great daughter. Your parents should be very proud of you. You want them to have fun and I agree with you they need some fun in their lives along with some relaxation. A cruise would be nice for them.
Go to a travel agency and get some information on different cruises. When you have your parents together show them the information about the different cruises. Tell them that you want them to go some where and have some fun. Tell them they work to hard and deserve a vacation. And that you thought a cruise would be fun as well as relaxing.
That's about all you can do. You can't make them go any where just suggest that they go.
Do you have family close by that can convince them they need to have some fun in their life?
Blessings and Good luck with your parents!cook fresh salmon
All they do is work and clean or worry over work or worry over getting the house clean.
They work at LEAST 8 hours a day ( My mom is a Chemist and my dad just became CEO of some new company {he is employeee #1} nad befor was a Senior Director BioChemist
But they go to work and work really hard most of the time my mom doesn't even take her lunch break. and when she gets home she insists that the house isn't clean enough and begins cleaning it.
My dad works really hard and when he gets home he giving off this streesed out vib and first thing he does when he walks in the door is point out what me and my sister havn't done around the house.
and Example of this is:
Ine day I got home after school i clean the entire house! I do all the dishes, I wipe down the counters, I vactume the carpet, I clean the bathrooms, I clean my room and my sisters room, I pick up EVERYTHING around the house, i mowed the lawn, weeded the garden, cleaned out the litter box, walked the Dog, cleaned my parents room (!!), I vacumed and scrubbed the pool and Did all the laundry!
and first thing he says to me when he walks in the door is
'; Sam you need to sweep the floors'; and continues to walk on sets down his stuff and turns of the football game,
And that is his route he comes in letcures us on what we havn't done, get his dinner ( sometimes makes dinner) and then sits down on the couch and turns on the TV and eats his dinner ( And he does NOT clean up the Cooking mess so by the time my mom comes in what was once clean is back to a disaster zone) and when he isn't watching the TV or doing work he is up messing with his boat.
And mom does nothing but clean and work and seems depressed or stressed or over worked
,
Also My mom was astraight A student and my Dad a was A and B+ student all through high school and therefore a C is equivelent to a F in my house. So i try to get good grades to make them proud. But when ever my report card gets here it normally looks like this:
Math: B
History: A
Science: B
English: A
Dance/ PE : A ( 96%)
Cermic/ Drawing class: A+ ( 106%)
and all they can say is ';Why didn't you get an A in Math and Science';
And on the Weekends all they do is Chores, House remodeling, and the never ending TO DO list. they also drop us off at our riding lesson on Sunday from 9:30 to 11:30 and most of the time don't even stay and when they do stay they say ';good job but i don't see much improvement';.( I've gone from not being able to canter to jumping 5 jump course at the canter and 2.5 ft verticals and cross rails!)
Its like why do i bother to Try! Nothing ever seems to be good enough. I wish they would say to the Hell with it all and go do something fun they WANT TO DO not something they Should Do.
UGG. I've try talking to them about it and all they say is i need to help around the house more and maybe then we can do something ';Fun';. thier relationship seems to be going fine it not like the have fights or anything. Its just they never seem happy or like they are having fun.
I like I've never heard my mom really laugh lik hear a small chuckle but out of the 16 years I've lived don't think i heard my mom laugh. =(
So what can i do?
What do i do? How can i just get them to have fun?
* Sigh* I just about ready to give up. Cause I can't think of anything to do to help and nothing ever seems to be good enough.
Parents never seem to be Happy.....?
So you are the live-in maid?
First of all, get a handle on your own life... you can do chores while being active in school clubs and extracurricular activities or even getting a job after school. What you need to do is quit trying to be a walking-talking Roomba.
Get a big calendar and put your schedule on each day... this club on Friday afternoons then mopping the floor when you get home. This activity on Tuesday afternoon and then clean the bathrooms when you get home. The dog and cat will have to be serviced no matter what. When the pipe up to complain, you point to the calendar. This way you are eliminating any nit-picking after the fact.
Learn to be content with yourself. You will probably never make your parents happy... it isn't possible. About all you can do is try to keep your relationship with them relatively free of static. Don't tie up your own self-esteem in a quest for their approval... it won't work.Parents never seem to be Happy.....?
well they are probably thinking about a divorce cause they are bored! but they stay together because you and your sis...just remember is not your fault (nor your sister's)
ask them separetly if they are happy
found some time for each of them and do something fun (if they think football is fun then sit next to him and watch it)
not easy but good luck
Sounds to me like your are a great daughter. Your parents should be very proud of you. You want them to have fun and I agree with you they need some fun in their lives along with some relaxation. A cruise would be nice for them.
Go to a travel agency and get some information on different cruises. When you have your parents together show them the information about the different cruises. Tell them that you want them to go some where and have some fun. Tell them they work to hard and deserve a vacation. And that you thought a cruise would be fun as well as relaxing.
That's about all you can do. You can't make them go any where just suggest that they go.
Do you have family close by that can convince them they need to have some fun in their life?
Blessings and Good luck with your parents!
My Gran is so selfish!?
I went over to my Gran's house and she asked me to do the garden cos her knees were aching. So I worked my fingers to the bone, trying to cut all the weeds back, prune, tidy and generally do everything to make sure the garden is spick and span (I even took the leftover weeds to the dump). Now I didn't mind doing it but she didn't give me any recognition for it, except to say ';Thank you love';. I'm sorry but it really annoyed me that she couldn't even be bothered to dip into her purse and give me something for it. She knows I don't have muchmoney coming in and she could have given a tenner or something in gratitude. I just feel like I shouldn't have bothered. She's just so selfish.
This isn't the first time it's happened either. I invited her over to my house once and I cooked for her, I let her stay, I drove her home and she didn't even have the courtesy to offer me petrol money or anything, she just keeps saying ';thank you! that's really appreciated'; and gets out of the car and walks in. So anyway, I had enough the other day and my Gran phoned asking if I would take her to see her brothers at the Garden centre near my house and I said ';Okay! .. but you really need to cough up for the petrol money this time Gran because I can't afford to keep doing this with no financial support'; and she slammed the phoned down after me after saying ';forget it!';. I was so shocked! So I called her back and she said ';don't worry love, Uncle Jack is taking me now';. She then abruptly ended the call. So I'm refusing to speak to her now, until I get an apology.
How do I deal with her, if this happens again? and also, what would you class a sufficient apology?My Gran is so selfish!?
You want your Gran to pay you for showing love and affection towards her? And you think she's the selfish one? The only apology that would be sufficient is for you to pick up the phone and tell her that you're really sorry for treating her like that!My Gran is so selfish!?
Perhaps she just sees all the favours you are doing for her as payback for the things she's done for you during your life. I
You are the selfish one, you should help elder members of your family just because you can not for a reward. A sufficient apology from you would be to apologise for your bad manners and ask if she needs any help with anything.
well sweety, if you respect your gran karma will come around and you will have good luck. and baby theres comes a time in everybody's life where they get old. your gunna get that way one day or another buddy. oh and she might just be going through menopause
So, your form of recognition is for her to dip into her pocket and pay you for it? I thought a sincere Thank You is enough, but I guess this doesn't apply for selfish people like you. If you expect to get paid every time someone ask you for a favor, you should tell them your rate first. The selfish person in this story from what I see, is you, not your grandma. And the person who should apologize is also you.
Firstly, she assumes you're altruistic. Meaning you're doing it for her without wanting to get paid back. Secondly, you're the selfish one if you expect payment for helping family. You are what is known as a ';psychic vampire'; by feeding off of those that are weak you give them things, which you consider to be binding them to you for a favor in return later on under the guise of altruism. You need to get some moral character.
i just dont understand why she owes YOU anything? shes your grandparent for gods sake..if anything you OWE it to her to watch after her like she needs you to do. YOU owe it to her to help her with her garden and to take her where she needs to go..dont be selfish
you do things for your family out of love and not for money !
why should she give you money, I expect she did things for you when you were small, helped the family about the things she might of done without your knowledge.
Apologies to your nan you only get one, apologies just explain money is tight for you at the moment , if she has a fiend who wants some gardening done for a tenner than your the one to do it
I can see both sides here. If i were you, id be annoyed, because lets face it, money doesnt grow on trees %26amp; if she got someone else to do it, she'd probably have to pay. But at the same time, how many things has she done for you in your life? She probably thinks that money doesnt matter because you're family. You need a compromise here
This isn't the first time it's happened either. I invited her over to my house once and I cooked for her, I let her stay, I drove her home and she didn't even have the courtesy to offer me petrol money or anything, she just keeps saying ';thank you! that's really appreciated'; and gets out of the car and walks in. So anyway, I had enough the other day and my Gran phoned asking if I would take her to see her brothers at the Garden centre near my house and I said ';Okay! .. but you really need to cough up for the petrol money this time Gran because I can't afford to keep doing this with no financial support'; and she slammed the phoned down after me after saying ';forget it!';. I was so shocked! So I called her back and she said ';don't worry love, Uncle Jack is taking me now';. She then abruptly ended the call. So I'm refusing to speak to her now, until I get an apology.
How do I deal with her, if this happens again? and also, what would you class a sufficient apology?My Gran is so selfish!?
You want your Gran to pay you for showing love and affection towards her? And you think she's the selfish one? The only apology that would be sufficient is for you to pick up the phone and tell her that you're really sorry for treating her like that!My Gran is so selfish!?
Perhaps she just sees all the favours you are doing for her as payback for the things she's done for you during your life. I
You are the selfish one, you should help elder members of your family just because you can not for a reward. A sufficient apology from you would be to apologise for your bad manners and ask if she needs any help with anything.
well sweety, if you respect your gran karma will come around and you will have good luck. and baby theres comes a time in everybody's life where they get old. your gunna get that way one day or another buddy. oh and she might just be going through menopause
So, your form of recognition is for her to dip into her pocket and pay you for it? I thought a sincere Thank You is enough, but I guess this doesn't apply for selfish people like you. If you expect to get paid every time someone ask you for a favor, you should tell them your rate first. The selfish person in this story from what I see, is you, not your grandma. And the person who should apologize is also you.
Firstly, she assumes you're altruistic. Meaning you're doing it for her without wanting to get paid back. Secondly, you're the selfish one if you expect payment for helping family. You are what is known as a ';psychic vampire'; by feeding off of those that are weak you give them things, which you consider to be binding them to you for a favor in return later on under the guise of altruism. You need to get some moral character.
i just dont understand why she owes YOU anything? shes your grandparent for gods sake..if anything you OWE it to her to watch after her like she needs you to do. YOU owe it to her to help her with her garden and to take her where she needs to go..dont be selfish
you do things for your family out of love and not for money !
why should she give you money, I expect she did things for you when you were small, helped the family about the things she might of done without your knowledge.
Apologies to your nan you only get one, apologies just explain money is tight for you at the moment , if she has a fiend who wants some gardening done for a tenner than your the one to do it
I can see both sides here. If i were you, id be annoyed, because lets face it, money doesnt grow on trees %26amp; if she got someone else to do it, she'd probably have to pay. But at the same time, how many things has she done for you in your life? She probably thinks that money doesnt matter because you're family. You need a compromise here
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this is my satory that im writing for a history project. the starter is your in class its 2:50 and your thinking of your bday party after school. all of a sudden the room spins and u feel a breeze.........now this is the rest!
I looked around confused. Where was the classroom? Where was everyone else? I tried to sit up, but fell heavily onto the mat with my head hurting. The woman repeated her question. “How do u feel Mdewakantonwan?” she said. Since when was I Mdewakantonwan? “Where am I?” I asked hesitantly. She looked confused. “Baawitigong. Don’t you remember?” she asked still confused. “No,” I said slowly. She pursed her lips like she was deep in thought. She took a deep breath. “You must have hit your head harder than I thought,” she murmured to herself. She sighed. “Wahpekute!” she barked, “take Mdewakantonwan with you fishing. It might refresh her memory.” I looked at the girl called Wahpekute. She was about my age with dark skin and braided hair. She was wearing a deerskin dress, with colorful beads on it. She looked at me and smiled. I frowned back. “Come with me,” chirped Wahpekute. She had a high sweet voice that reminded me of honey. I frowned and tried to sit up; gladly I found that there was only a throbbing in my head. Not enough to keep me lying down. I stood and found I was wearing the same clothing as Wahpekute. There was just one difference; my beads were bright yellows, magentas, blues, and greens while hers were dark browns, reds, and blacks. I followed Wahpekute out of the wigwam. She talked to me all the way about birds, deer, and people. As we walked I noticed all the people looking our way. I think I saw some of them nod respectfully but maybe I was imagining it. I looked at her questioningly but she just smiled and continued talking. When she stopped we were right beside a river. “Gichi-ziibi,” Wahpekute said proudly. She pulled me over to a group of two women getting a giant net untangled. The one with beads like Wahpekute’s, came over. “Mdewakantonwan, this is my mother Titonwan,” Wahpekute said gesturing toward her mother. “Hello,” I replied. Titonwan smiled and the other lady beckoned us over. Wahpekute showed me how to untangle the net and how to spread it out and retie the undone knots. Finally when that was done we each grab a spot and threw the net into the water while carefully tying the net to the shore. We did not want to risk letting the net float away. Titonwan handed out dried meat after that was done. I watched as the others ate theirs and took a hesitant bite. It was delicious. We all finished and Wahpekute said, “Come. It is time to get the rice.” I followed a little confused by what she meant. She took me around to what I thought was almost the other site of the village. On the way there, we saw many people working; fixing wigwams, cooking, cleaning, sewing, and cleaning animals. She took me to a spot beside a wigwam with a birch basket, sticks, and stalks of what looked like weeds. On closer inspection, I found that they weren’t weeds and they were covered in rice. There was no one here. It looked like this was our job and no one else’s. Wahpekute went over to the sticks and picked two up. She came over to me and gave me one. “Take the stick and hit rice into basket.” she said demonstrating. I watched her carefully, and then picked up a stalk of my own. I walked over to the basket and did the same thing that Wahpekute did. Some of the rice came off but not as much as Wahpekute had got off. I looked at her and she smiled. “Harder,” she said. So I did and it worked. I smiled, glad that I could do it right. We finished all the stalks and Wahpekute said we were to take the stalks to the fire. She picked up the stalks and I picked up the basket. We walked to the fire that I guessed was in the middle of the village. Like before she talked the whole way. When we got to the fire she put the stalks in a pile right beside the wood. “Now we take rice to SahGahUd,” she said walking off toward a wigwam to the left of the fire. I followed and when we got to the wigwam’s door she took the rice basket. She went in and I went after her. It was warm inside. I looked around and found animal skins, tools, and food. SahGahUd looked up as we came in. “Welcome children,” she said in a calming voice. “We have brought the rice SahGahUd,” Wahpekute chirped. “Ah, yes I have been waiting. Set it over there with the rest,” she replied. Wahpekute smiled, obeyed, and we both said good-bye and left. Wahpekute looked grim when we left the wigwam. “What’s wrong Wahpekute?” I said sounding as confused as I was. She hesitated then said, “I do not like her. She came from a different tribe. The Dakota. Our two tribes are not as friendly as the Chief would like. There are fights all the time. Them over here, us over there. It is back and forth really. She came to us one winter. Skinny and frail with nothing but her clothes to keep her warm. Everyone to pity on her, but I still do not like heWat do u think of my story?
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I looked around confused. Where was the classroom? Where was everyone else? I tried to sit up, but fell heavily onto the mat with my head hurting. The woman repeated her question. “How do u feel Mdewakantonwan?” she said. Since when was I Mdewakantonwan? “Where am I?” I asked hesitantly. She looked confused. “Baawitigong. Don’t you remember?” she asked still confused. “No,” I said slowly. She pursed her lips like she was deep in thought. She took a deep breath. “You must have hit your head harder than I thought,” she murmured to herself. She sighed. “Wahpekute!” she barked, “take Mdewakantonwan with you fishing. It might refresh her memory.” I looked at the girl called Wahpekute. She was about my age with dark skin and braided hair. She was wearing a deerskin dress, with colorful beads on it. She looked at me and smiled. I frowned back. “Come with me,” chirped Wahpekute. She had a high sweet voice that reminded me of honey. I frowned and tried to sit up; gladly I found that there was only a throbbing in my head. Not enough to keep me lying down. I stood and found I was wearing the same clothing as Wahpekute. There was just one difference; my beads were bright yellows, magentas, blues, and greens while hers were dark browns, reds, and blacks. I followed Wahpekute out of the wigwam. She talked to me all the way about birds, deer, and people. As we walked I noticed all the people looking our way. I think I saw some of them nod respectfully but maybe I was imagining it. I looked at her questioningly but she just smiled and continued talking. When she stopped we were right beside a river. “Gichi-ziibi,” Wahpekute said proudly. She pulled me over to a group of two women getting a giant net untangled. The one with beads like Wahpekute’s, came over. “Mdewakantonwan, this is my mother Titonwan,” Wahpekute said gesturing toward her mother. “Hello,” I replied. Titonwan smiled and the other lady beckoned us over. Wahpekute showed me how to untangle the net and how to spread it out and retie the undone knots. Finally when that was done we each grab a spot and threw the net into the water while carefully tying the net to the shore. We did not want to risk letting the net float away. Titonwan handed out dried meat after that was done. I watched as the others ate theirs and took a hesitant bite. It was delicious. We all finished and Wahpekute said, “Come. It is time to get the rice.” I followed a little confused by what she meant. She took me around to what I thought was almost the other site of the village. On the way there, we saw many people working; fixing wigwams, cooking, cleaning, sewing, and cleaning animals. She took me to a spot beside a wigwam with a birch basket, sticks, and stalks of what looked like weeds. On closer inspection, I found that they weren’t weeds and they were covered in rice. There was no one here. It looked like this was our job and no one else’s. Wahpekute went over to the sticks and picked two up. She came over to me and gave me one. “Take the stick and hit rice into basket.” she said demonstrating. I watched her carefully, and then picked up a stalk of my own. I walked over to the basket and did the same thing that Wahpekute did. Some of the rice came off but not as much as Wahpekute had got off. I looked at her and she smiled. “Harder,” she said. So I did and it worked. I smiled, glad that I could do it right. We finished all the stalks and Wahpekute said we were to take the stalks to the fire. She picked up the stalks and I picked up the basket. We walked to the fire that I guessed was in the middle of the village. Like before she talked the whole way. When we got to the fire she put the stalks in a pile right beside the wood. “Now we take rice to SahGahUd,” she said walking off toward a wigwam to the left of the fire. I followed and when we got to the wigwam’s door she took the rice basket. She went in and I went after her. It was warm inside. I looked around and found animal skins, tools, and food. SahGahUd looked up as we came in. “Welcome children,” she said in a calming voice. “We have brought the rice SahGahUd,” Wahpekute chirped. “Ah, yes I have been waiting. Set it over there with the rest,” she replied. Wahpekute smiled, obeyed, and we both said good-bye and left. Wahpekute looked grim when we left the wigwam. “What’s wrong Wahpekute?” I said sounding as confused as I was. She hesitated then said, “I do not like her. She came from a different tribe. The Dakota. Our two tribes are not as friendly as the Chief would like. There are fights all the time. Them over here, us over there. It is back and forth really. She came to us one winter. Skinny and frail with nothing but her clothes to keep her warm. Everyone to pity on her, but I still do not like heWat do u think of my story?
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